Thursday, April 5, 2007

Do we just tell them the truth?

So, while Grant & I were trying to concieve and undergoing fertility tests we were constantly being asked when we plan to have children, why we don't have children yet, etc, etc., although quite annoying, we got used to answering those questions and figured out creative ways to respond. Last weekend while out for lunch with my family we ran into one of my mom's old friends and she asked if we had any kids yet - "not yet" - she asks how long we've been married - "almost 5 years" - I know she only meant well, but she told us that we really should have children if we've been married for 5 years. Driving home Grant turns to me and says we should just start telling people the truth when asked why we don't have kids and see how they like our response - I really don't think people want hear the real reason why we don't have children yet or maybe they do want to hear the raw & uncensored truth?!?!?? It might be a bit funny to see their reactions...

5 comments:

SRMcEvoy said...

Yes I would tell them the truth. It might slow them asking that question of others also. Others who are not as open about the journey as you are!

Steven
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Grant and Janet Carioni said...

In my conversation with Janet I was being rather cynical in my frustration...I was thinking I'd tell them the explicit truth more for shock value. Then gague how red they turn.

Sharon, Scott & Liam said...

Hi guys, finally had a chance to catch up on your blog and had to give my input on this one...
I say tell them the truth - I honestly can't see it being shocking to people; and what have you got to lose - even if they do respond in a shocked or inappropriate way, you're right, it will be them who turn red in the face, not you!!
When people ask when we're planning our second and we tell them Liam will be our one and only, they often ask why...and we tell them the truth about how sick I got after having Liam and not wanting to risk getting even sicker.
We're comfortable with our decision
as I know you two are so make it known!!
P.S. Congrats on your 5th anniversary - trip to Sanibel looked awesome! We have to have to have to get together soon...
Love Sharon, Scott & Liam XOXOXO

Rebecca VanderBurgh said...

I would definitely tell them the truth, perhaps a little for the shock value and a little to welcome them on your journey. I can't believe how insensitive so many people have been - from comments like "you don't look pregnant", to "you should have kids by now" - I'm suprised so many people are so insensitive. Those who are shocked by the truth may think twice about asking similar intrusive questions, and those who are supportive may be a blessing.

Adele said...

Thanks for your wonderful website. We saw your site mentioned in the National Catholic Register. We will pray that you hold your little one in your arms very soon. Our little girl will be home from China tonight!!! See our blog at www.journeytotherese.blogspot.com